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Speaking or staying silent? Finding balance in our conversations

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Sometimes, we speak too quickly. 
Sometimes, we stay silent for too long. 

In a conversation, finding balance is not always simple. 
We want to be understood. We want to be respected. We also want to preserve the connection in our relationships. 

So we hesitate. 

When speaking becomes necessary 

Speaking up means taking a position. 
It means naming a boundary. Expressing a need. Sharing an emotion. 

Staying silent too often can create frustration, distance, or a sense of not fully existing in the relationship. 

Putting feelings into words, even imperfect ones, helps clarify. 
It helps us feel aligned with ourselves. 
It allows us to take our place. 

When silence protects 

But not everything needs to be said immediately. 

Sometimes, staying silent allows us to reflect. 
To let a strong emotion settle. 
To choose the right moment. 

Silence can prevent words spoken on impulse. 
It can also signal that we need time. 

Staying silent is not disappearing. 
Sometimes, it is a way of caring for the connection, starting with the one we have with ourselves. 

Finding your own balance 

Balance is not measured by the number of words spoken. 
It is measured by how we feel inside. 

Am I speaking to respect myself? 
Or to avoid discomfort? 
Am I staying silent by choice? 
Or out of fear? Out of emotional exhaustion?

These simple questions, along with the signals from our body, can guide our conversations and improve our communication skills.

A matter of mental well-being 

Communicating means navigating between expression and restraint. 
It means learning to listen to ourselves in order to better listen to others. 

Speak when it feels right. 
Stay silent when it feels necessary. 
And most importantly, dare to create spaces where everyone can exist. 

Active listening, Relationships

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