You’re that person people turn to. The one who listens, reassures, and truly gets it, and there’s something beautiful about being trusted like that. But sometimes, it can get heavy.

Maybe you leave conversations feeling drained.
You carry things that aren’t yours.
You want to help, but you’re not sure how anymore.
And sometimes, you feel guilty for not doing enough.

How do you keep showing up for others — without losing yourself in the process?

1. Listening Isn’t Fixing or Saving

You don’t have to solve their problems. Being a good confidant doesn’t mean having all the answers, it means being present — without judgment. Just that. And it’s already a lot.

When you start feeling responsible for someone else’s well-being, burnout follows.That’s not listening — that’s emotional overload.

2. Know and Respect Your Limits

You have the right to say:
“I’m here for you, but I need a pause.”
“What you’re going through feels heavy for me right now.”

Setting clear boundaries isn’t abandoning someone — It’s being available in a healthier way.

3. You Deserve a Safe Space, Too

You don’t have to carry everything alone. How about talking to someone you trust?
Naming what you feel helps you stay grounded — and present.

4. Empathy Doesn’t Mean Taking It On

Feeling with someone isn’t the same as feeling for them. You can be moved without being overwhelmed.
Keep a kind, compassionate distance. Their story belongs to them. You can walk beside them — not carry it for them.

5. Take Care of Yourself — Intentionally

It’s not selfish: it’s essential! Rest, move, breathe, laugh, even say no. These aren’t indulgences — they’re how you stay whole.

Being a good confidant means offering a space to listen — but not at the expense of your mental health.

If it ever feels like too much, or if you’ve been carrying it alone for too long…
Know that a listening ear is available.
Tel-Aide Montréal is here for you 24/7 at 514-935-1101 or 1-877-935-1101.

Because listening is precious — but being heard is just as important.